Hockey Coach Betrayed Trust of Children and Parents

One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though … betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope.

    Steven Deitz

What do you do as a parent when you willingly and sometimes eagerly entrusted your child in the care of an adult you trusted and that adult betrayed that trust that leaves a pain in your heart forever. Today the judge in Winnipeg will sentence sex offender, former Junior hockey coach Graham James  in a court of law for the crimes he committed against children (now adults)  who have the courage to come forward and lay the charges. For every one who has come forward there may be another five or ten who are maintaining their silence because of shame. Star hockey players like Theoren Fleury and Sheldon Kennedy will be there to hear the sentence.

Many parents are left with that retching feeling, did I miss a sign, was I so eager for my child to succeed that I overlooked key evidence that something was wrong.  Sometimes our blind trust in human nature does not allow us to see trouble brewing.  Do not beat yourselves up because these sex abusers of children are cunning and slick and they know how to groom both the parent and the child into trusting them completely.

My advice to all parents who are dealing with adults be they teachers, doctors, coaches, pastors, always ask your child, how was your day, your game, your Sunday school whatever and listen to their answers, watch their body language. The body does not lie.

It is not a nice place to be in and sending this man to jail will not stop the pain.


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