IN recent years, we’ve been treated to reams of op-ed articles about how we need better teachers in our public schools and, if only the teachers’ unions would go away, our kids would score like Singapore’s on the big international tests. There’s no question that a great teacher can make a huge difference in a student’s achievement, and we need to recruit, train and reward more such teachers. But here’s what some new studies are also showing: We need better parents. Parents more focused on their children’s education can also make a huge difference in a student’s achievement.
To teach a child is parents stepping back and following the lead of the child. We all come into the world for a purpose, a mission to do something that would move mankind forward in understanding of the nature of the universe. I don’t care if that direction leads to a mass murderer. That person is still teaching us something about the nature of human being. It is about allowing the child to take the lead in showing us what he or she is interested in and then allow parents to provide opportunities to engage the child in his or her pursuit, is the parent teaching the child to be who he or she was born to be, to be original and self-reliant.
When we talk about teaching children, we are talking about making them into our vision of what that child should be without input from the child. Generally our vision is shaped by the vision of those before us who have defined success for us. All we want to do is to make our children into successful adults, who will be able to earn a lot of money, have a career and so on.
There is no truth in any of this stuff that were handed to us by our parents, our teachers, our pastors etc. It’s what Richard Brodie calls, virus of the mind. We are all spreaders of viruses when we try to infect the minds of others with our ideas or ideas that we got from somewhere else. I am guilty of that right here right now but this is a virus that could take us out of our mindset and start to imagine something different.
Many times children show parents what they are interested in and because we may not value professions like a carpenter, a Lego artist, or someone who wants to live a simple spiritual life of self-reliance, living off the land and being happy with that we force children into accepting our definition of success. We are told by all the wisest spiritual masters and people who live in the field of infinite possibility that what you put your attention on expands, when you are living your purpose, whatever it is you will be successful because work becomes a pleasure and something you’re never tired of, the more you work the more energy you get and that is why some people become so phenomenally successful and the money naturally follows.
If parents would just allow, their children will be fine. We are part of a universe which is continually in movement, expanding and contracting and so are we because we are part of the organic planet earth, we are one. We all can live from spirit if we were not riddled with viruses that were handed down to us from generation to generation.
Teach your children by allowing them to be who they came on this planet to be, let them show you what help they need then provide it to them. That’s good teaching.